The Problem with Condemnation
Most everything we condemn people for has built-in consequences.
Alcohol has hangovers, addiction, and long-term health consequences.
Cigarettes cause all sorts of health issues and, eventually, death.
Too much time on your phone can cause anxiety and neck issues.
Not wearing a seatbelt can get you thrown through a windshield.
No one is imposing these consequences on anyone; they are built into the things themselves. Our condemnation is unnecessary. In fact, it encourages people to defend their behavior. This ties them to that behavior.
Think about it this way.
I don't understand the hype around the movie Avatar. I didn't love it, but I didn't hate it. I really can't remember it if I'm honest with you. I don't understand how it's one of the highest-grossing movies of all time. Every person I've ever said that to you has agreed with me. I don't understand where all this film's fans are, but they must be somewhere because it made a gazillion dollars at the box office.
Anyway, at worst, it's a harmless, mediocre movie. Now, if I were to say that I think it is the worst movie of all time and that James Cameron should be shot for having made it, the same people who agree it's mediocre would be inclined to defend it. They would tell me it's not so bad and name a few things they liked about it. My condemnation has coerced them into an alliance with the very thing that I was condemning. This happens with everything, so I've never seen a situation where condemnation is helpful.
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